Isn’t it human nature to assume?

We all tend to draw conclusions with limited data. Specifically when our insecurities are high, when we allow fears and doubts to dominate our thinking. When we are not so sure of making logical deductions, we tend to make some emotional assumptions about what we observe. This can lead to lost relationships and weak self esteem about being able to keep friends and loved ones.

1. The first step is to identify that ‘we’ have an issue.
2. Second is to re establish the need for meaningful and fulfilling relationships in our lives. It is these that give us a purpose to shoot big for.
3. Third is to learn to replace blame with benefit of doubt. Easier said than done…
4. Next, we need to reach out to the other person to check on their intentions and hidden agendas, if any. Need to give them an impartial listening and space to speak their minds.
5. Finally, we need to choose to believe them. Unless we make this choice, we are automatically choosing to let the relationship go. We become as responsible for the mess as the other person.